Reflections from my Dating Journey: It All Came Down to a Mental Shift
Read Perel Lightman’s authentic and inspiring personal dating journey. Discover her incredible insight and how it helped guide her along her way.
Hope in the Wake of the Tragedy in Meron
As I sit down to write, my mind is flooded with the tragedy that occurred on Lag BaOmer in Meron, Israel. During a climatic and momentous celebration marking the time that Rabbi Akiva sought out Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai and a few other students to rebuild the Torah legacy after his 24,000 students perished, the …
We Are Good Friends So Why Does He Not Want to Date Me?
Dear Dr. Chani, There is a guy who lives in my neighborhood who I would love to date. There is one problem – he does not seem interested in me. Or maybe he is. Let’s call him Zack. Zack and I have been friends for a few years. I often host him for Shabbos meals, …
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Should I Recommend Couples Therapy to My Friend with Marital Issues?
Dear Dr. Chani, When I get together with one of my married friends and her husband, it is very uncomfortable for me. It is obvious to me that they have marital issues. Her husband will make jokes about her and criticize her opinions in public. I never thought of my friend as an insecure person, …
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Talk About Embarrassing Dating Stories!
Recently, in the spirit of Purim, I invited people to share their most embarrassing dating stories with me. We could all use a good laugh so here goes… One time I was going on a blind date. I had arranged to meet the guy at a comfortable lobby in Manhattan and walk around the city. …
How Can My Husband and I Agree on Where to Live? Dealing with Marital Conflict
Dear Dr. Chani, My husband and I are at a standstill about where to live. When we got married four years ago, we agreed to live in New York so that he could finish graduate school. Now that he is going to graduate at the end of this year, we are under pressure to make …
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Depressed about Dating? How to Change Your Mindset
Dear Dr. Chani, I am wondering what I can do about my depressing dating life. Beyond my wildest dreams, I would never have imagined that I would be dating for over ten years. I admit that during my first few years of dating, I was quick to judge people. I regret that I said no …
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Why is My Wife Critical of Me?
Dear Dr. Chani, It pains me to write about a relationship issue I have with my wife. Although we have what I would consider a pretty good marriage, I feel that in many ways she is critical of me. It really demotivates me to help out at home and hang out with my family. I …
When Your Date is Socially Awkward with Your Family
Dear Dr. Chani, I am reaching out to you to get your advice about a guy I am dating – let’s call him Avi. We have gone out for a few months and I am still undecided about moving forward. He has a lot of the qualities I am looking for. He is kind, thoughtful, …
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Are Your Worries Masking Another Underlying Anxiety?
Dear Dr. Chani, I read your recent column about worrying with great interest. One sentence really resonated with me. You wrote, “there are many possible alternative worries that may be masked by your main focus.” I have been wondering if that applies to my life. For as long as I can remember, I have had …
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Issues with Attraction in Dating
Dear Dr. Chani, Over the past four years that I have dated, I have not gone out with many guys. I tend to be selective about who I chose to date. Recently, I decided to go out with someone who sounded like a great person. The drawback for me is that he is on the …