Share Your Ideas for How People Should Date Better! Suggest Dos and Don’ts that a Man or a Woman Should Know for Before, During, and After a Date Can you think of ways in which you were not treated properly by someone you dated? Maybe the person canceled the date on you only half an …
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Dear Dr. Chani, When should I trust my own instincts and when should I listen to other people for advice? Over the past four months, I have been dating a guy who I really like – let’s call him Alex. We have a great time together, but my family cannot stand Alex. They have not …
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife and I have an excellent relationship filled with love, admiration, and mutual respect. We have been married for over five years and are blessed with two amazing children. Generally, we are very good communicators and do not shy away from things that are bothering us. The issue I present to …
Dear Dr. Chani, Your recent long-distance relationship article really intrigued me. I have been dating a guy from England, let’s call him Ari, for the past few months. I live in New Jersey so we took turns traveling back and forth. We talk on the phone a lot in between. Right now I am in …
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife is a habitual spender. Money never burns a hole in her pocket. She consistently wastes our money on unimportant things. We were in debt early on in our marriage and I never want to go back there again. I explained to my wife that I have worked hard to get …
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been dating a guy, let’s call him Yoni, for about two months. We live across the country from each other so we knew before we started dating that we would not see each other that frequently. At this point, we have had four dates in person. It could be that …
Dear Dr. Chani, After several years of dating, I have still not found “Mr. Right.” When I look back at the many guys I have dated, I know that there were a few who had potential. Unfortunately, I rejected them after one or two dates without giving them much of a chance. They are no …
Dear Dr. Chani, My resentment towards my husband has been snowballing for a long time. In many ways, I see him as an overgrown child. I feel so lonely in my marriage. I am not sure what to do at this point. My husband often wakes up very late in the morning. He eventually goes …
Dear Dr. Chani, I am writing this specifically in reference to your most recent column. When I read about the several instances that were shared reflecting guys’ “self-absorption” and thoughtlessness on dates, what immediately came to my mind was the idea of a “fundamental attribution error.” While not defending or excusing the guys’ behavior, I …
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Dear Dr. Chani, I am not writing to ask you for advice, but to vent my frustrations. As you probably know, the world of dating needs a lot of improvement. I have a daughter who is twenty-three years old and searching for her match. Over the last few years, she has found that most of …
Dear Dr. Chani, It has been quite a challenging year for my family. Even though it seems like the world has adapted to Covid-19 and become more optimistic in the face of new vaccines, my family has not moved on. The effects of quarantining and home-schooling have worn down my family dynamic to the point …