Reflections from my Dating Journey: It All Came Down to a Mental Shift
Read Perel Lightman’s authentic and inspiring personal dating journey. Discover her incredible insight and how it helped guide her along her way.
Feeling Guilty About Planning a Fancy Wedding
Dear Dr. Chani, I have recently attended several small weddings in backyards, country clubs, and parking lots. I have also watched a few weddings on Zoom. What I would have once been totally shocked to see has become fairly common. When my friends first started getting married in a casual, downsized way, I pitied them. …
My Dating Partner Refuses to Go for Therapy
Dear Dr. Chani, I desperately need your advice about how to handle my situation with the girl that I am dating. I have been dating her for three months, and I am worried about our relationship. Usually, we have a great time together and we get along really well. The problems start whenever we need …
How to Deal with People Who Disappoint You
Dear Dr. Chani, Last month I found myself faced with a huge emotional challenge that I still feel bad about. For the first time, my husband and I decided that it was healthy for our family to visit a different town this summer. We selected an “out of town” location that has a significant Jewish …
Can I Leave My Parents and Make Aliyah?
Dear Dr. Chani, The many shifts in current events over the past year have really left me feeling unsettled. The economy seems unstable and the political situation is nerve-racking to me as well. I have always been somewhat considering the idea of making aliyah, but I have never been ready before. Now I feel a …
Can I Have My Friends and My Marriage Too?
Dear Dr. Chani, I would like your advice on a long-standing concern about friendship and marriage that I am currently facing head on. When I was in yeshiva, as a twenty-three year old, I began watching my closest friends get married, one by one. At first, I was genuinely happy for them and looked forward …
Ride Relationship Twists with a Paradigm Shift
Dear Dr. Chani, When I think of my relationship with my best friend from childhood, (let’s call her Dena,) it makes me want to cry. We were inseparable since kindergarten. Our families lived close to one another so we used to get together almost every day. We would do our homework together, go shopping, and …
Should You Ever Go to Bed Angry?
Dear Dr. Chani, It has been six months since I got married and I am perpetually exhausted. Marriage is wonderful and exciting in some ways, but it is not always easy. I was surprised to find out after I got married that my husband and I have a lot of differences of opinion. We are …
How to Deal With the Wedding Season When You Feel Negative
Dear Dr. Chani, It’s that time of year again! After Lag B’Omer, my heart starts racing, knowing that it is only a matter of time before the engagements start rolling in. Wedding season has officially begun. I dread the thought of having to hear about so many engagements, and to go through the motions of …
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Feeling Ignored on my WhatsApp Chats
I am laughing as I write this since it sounds so trivial. Yet, I am really upset by it. I feel I am being excluded by my friends and family on WhatsApp.
The Secret to Success at Video Chat Dating
Dear Dr. Chani. I would never have dreamed of living through something like the coronavirus. It has been hard all around, but the setback to my dating is particularly poignant. I was just beginning to get hopeful about starting to date. When I returned to America after two years in Israel, I was not rushing …