Reflections from my Dating Journey: It All Came Down to a Mental Shift
Read Perel Lightman’s authentic and inspiring personal dating journey. Discover her incredible insight and how it helped guide her along her way.
Can I Leave My Parents and Make Aliyah?
Dear Dr. Chani, The many shifts in current events over the past year have really left me feeling unsettled. The economy seems unstable and the political situation is nerve-racking to me as well. I have always been somewhat considering the idea of making aliyah, but I have never been ready before. Now I feel a …
Can I Have My Friends and My Marriage Too?
Dear Dr. Chani, I would like your advice on a long-standing concern about friendship and marriage that I am currently facing head on. When I was in yeshiva, as a twenty-three year old, I began watching my closest friends get married, one by one. At first, I was genuinely happy for them and looked forward …
Ride Relationship Twists with a Paradigm Shift
Dear Dr. Chani, When I think of my relationship with my best friend from childhood, (let’s call her Dena,) it makes me want to cry. We were inseparable since kindergarten. Our families lived close to one another so we used to get together almost every day. We would do our homework together, go shopping, and …
Should You Ever Go to Bed Angry?
Dear Dr. Chani, It has been six months since I got married and I am perpetually exhausted. Marriage is wonderful and exciting in some ways, but it is not always easy. I was surprised to find out after I got married that my husband and I have a lot of differences of opinion. We are …
How to Deal With the Wedding Season When You Feel Negative
Dear Dr. Chani, It’s that time of year again! After Lag B’Omer, my heart starts racing, knowing that it is only a matter of time before the engagements start rolling in. Wedding season has officially begun. I dread the thought of having to hear about so many engagements, and to go through the motions of …
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Feeling Ignored on my WhatsApp Chats
I am laughing as I write this since it sounds so trivial. Yet, I am really upset by it. I feel I am being excluded by my friends and family on WhatsApp.
The Secret to Success at Video Chat Dating
Dear Dr. Chani. I would never have dreamed of living through something like the coronavirus. It has been hard all around, but the setback to my dating is particularly poignant. I was just beginning to get hopeful about starting to date. When I returned to America after two years in Israel, I was not rushing …
My Match Does Not Seem Interested in Me
Your online dating match seems to be not interested in you. Understand why your match may not seem interested and what you should do.
Why Your Loved One May Not Give You the Support You Need During this Crisis
My father was hospitalized in isolation with coronavirus and was very, very seriously ill. I do not feel that my wife was there with me enough during those very trying weeks. I feel this created a gap between us that it is hard to fill. Can you help me?
How to Get the Personal Space You Crave
I would love to hear your advice for how to get the personal space I need, even during these trying times. Should I feel bad about this? Am I being selfish?