Mirroring is a powerful force in human relationships. Just like a mirror reflects the face that looks at it, so too social mirroring involves one person reflecting the “face” of another person. Learn how mirroring can help you strengthen your rapport in any relationship – with your partner, child, or co-worker.
“I just haven’t found the right person yet.” Tamara sank back against the couch cushions, slumping her shoulders down. Her spirits were so heavy it seemed like she would sink into the ground if not for the floor beneath her. “It is so hard,” she sighed. “There is just nobody out there.” Why is it so hard to find a great person to marry?
The wedding was a blast – even if you did not get to dance with your friend from fourth grade and you have not eaten more than a bite of challah in ten hours. You entered the wedding hall on your own and you leave as a married couple. You wave goodbye to your relatives and drive off into the night to start your new married lives together. It seems so romantic and blissful. Yet, even as you are on your way home in the car, a new reality sets in…
Do you remember the last time you tried to strike up a conversation with someone only to come to a dead end when you did not seem to have much to say to one another? What can you do to jump start a conversation to engage someone and build an emotional connection?
Based on my over twenty years of experience relationship coaching and scientific research, I have found that people who are most happily married attribute their relationship success to three main qualities. Keep these three qualities in mind as you date to help you find and develop a relationship with a person who is right for you.
“I’m just not feeling it.” “There’s no connection.” “I’m just not emotionally there.” Have you ever thought or said one of these statements? If you are dating, chances are that you feel this way more often than you would like. If you are married, you might also wonder why you feel distant from your spouse. Learn why you might feel this way and a fun way to revitalize your relationship.