Dear Dr. Chani, I am not writing to ask you for advice, but to vent my frustrations. As you probably know, the world of dating needs a lot of improvement. I have a daughter who is twenty-three years old and searching for her match. Over the last few years, she has found that most of …
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Dear Dr. Chani, I am feeling really confused about my marriage. I feel like my relationship is not the way it is supposed to me, but I cannot put my finger on what is bothering me. Even though my marriage is normal, I do not feel happy. Things used to be different between us. My …
Dear Dr. Chani, I really need your help. I have been dating for quite a while, and I noticed a pattern that I have. I tend to regret my decisions. It is interesting because it is not that I am indecisive. I usually have an easy time coming to a decision about whether to continue …
Dear Dr. Chani, I recently returned from a week-long vacation alone with my husband. Unfortunately, it was far from the bliss I had expected. Instead, we seemed to be fighting all the time. Of course, we did enjoy the vacation, but, looking back, it seems like we had more tension than relaxation. This made me …
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Dear Dr. Chani, I recently went to a dating coach to help me figure out where I am going wrong with dating. The advice I received does not seem right to me and has not helped me so far. I hope you can guide me to understand what I am missing. My issue is that …
Dear Dr. Chani, When should I trust my own instincts and when should I listen to other people for advice? Over the past four months, I have been dating a guy who I really like – let’s call him Alex. We have a great time together, but my family cannot stand Alex. They have not …
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife and I have an excellent relationship filled with love, admiration, and mutual respect. We have been married for over five years and are blessed with two amazing children. Generally, we are very good communicators and do not shy away from things that are bothering us. The issue I present to …
Dear Dr. Chani, Your recent long-distance relationship article really intrigued me. I have been dating a guy from England, let’s call him Ari, for the past few months. I live in New Jersey so we took turns traveling back and forth. We talk on the phone a lot in between. Right now I am in …
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife is a habitual spender. Money never burns a hole in her pocket. She consistently wastes our money on unimportant things. We were in debt early on in our marriage and I never want to go back there again. I explained to my wife that I have worked hard to get …
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been dating a guy, let’s call him Yoni, for about two months. We live across the country from each other so we knew before we started dating that we would not see each other that frequently. At this point, we have had four dates in person. It could be that …
Dear Dr. Chani, After several years of dating, I have still not found “Mr. Right.” When I look back at the many guys I have dated, I know that there were a few who had potential. Unfortunately, I rejected them after one or two dates without giving them much of a chance. They are no …