Dear Dr. Chani, I am feeling really confused about my marriage. I feel like my relationship is not the way it is supposed to me, but I cannot put my finger on what is bothering me. Even though my marriage is normal, I do not feel happy. Things used to be different between us. My …
Dear Dr. Chani, I recently returned from a week-long vacation alone with my husband. Unfortunately, it was far from the bliss I had expected. Instead, we seemed to be fighting all the time. Of course, we did enjoy the vacation, but, looking back, it seems like we had more tension than relaxation. This made me …
It’s Our Vacation – Why Are We Fighting So Much? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife and I have an excellent relationship filled with love, admiration, and mutual respect. We have been married for over five years and are blessed with two amazing children. Generally, we are very good communicators and do not shy away from things that are bothering us. The issue I present to …
Dear Dr. Chani, My wife is a habitual spender. Money never burns a hole in her pocket. She consistently wastes our money on unimportant things. We were in debt early on in our marriage and I never want to go back there again. I explained to my wife that I have worked hard to get …
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been engaged for a few months and the wedding date is set for a few weeks from now. Things have become pretty stressful through the engagement. I am getting increasingly anxious. I am not sure if I should call off the wedding, delay it, or just go through with it. …
Feeling Unsettled and Stressed About My Engagement Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been leading a double life for the past five years. To the outside world, I am happily married, with an adorable little girl. Yet, in my own home, I feel that my husband and I are almost strangers. I am at the point where I feel pushed to decide if …
Can My Marriage Survive After My Husband’s Deception? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I would love to get along better with my husband. We have been married for over a decade but it seems like forever. An outsider would probably say that we have a great marriage, yet the truth is that I find it very difficult to feel close to my husband. He is …
My Husband is a Perfectionist. How Can I Feel Closer to Him? Read More »
Dear Chani, I have been struggling with a bad feeling for around two years. It started when new neighbors moved in a few doors away from us. At first, I felt very lucky to have such wonderful people living on our block. But as our children became good friends, and we had more to do …
My Friend’s Husband Is So Much Better Than Mine! Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, When I get together with one of my married friends and her husband, it is very uncomfortable for me. It is obvious to me that they have marital issues. Her husband will make jokes about her and criticize her opinions in public. I never thought of my friend as an insecure person, …
Should I Recommend Couples Therapy to My Friend with Marital Issues? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, My husband and I are at a standstill about where to live. When we got married four years ago, we agreed to live in New York so that he could finish graduate school. Now that he is going to graduate at the end of this year, we are under pressure to make …
How Can My Husband and I Agree on Where to Live? Dealing with Marital Conflict Read More »