Dear Dr. Chani, I recently met a guy who I would like to date, but I am not sure how to proceed. The truth is we did not actually meet each other. I was out walking with a married friend of mine, and two guys walked by. One of them knew my friend, so he …
My Friend Refuses to Set Me Up With Someone I Want to Date Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, How can I know if the person I am dating is abusive or within the range of normal? I have been dating a woman, let’s call her Zahava, for about four months. I noticed some strange behaviors from the start, but some of her habits have become more concerning over time. One …
Dear Dr. Chani, I would love to get along better with my husband. We have been married for over a decade but it seems like forever. An outsider would probably say that we have a great marriage, yet the truth is that I find it very difficult to feel close to my husband. He is …
My Husband is a Perfectionist. How Can I Feel Closer to Him? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been dating for a while and have never had a serious relationship. One of the major questions I wonder about is how to determine if a person is religious enough for me. I grew up in a home where my mother clearly wanted to be more religious than my father. …
How Can I Date When I Am Religiously Conflicted? Read More »
Dear Chani, I have been struggling with a bad feeling for around two years. It started when new neighbors moved in a few doors away from us. At first, I felt very lucky to have such wonderful people living on our block. But as our children became good friends, and we had more to do …
My Friend’s Husband Is So Much Better Than Mine! Read More »
As I sit down to write, my mind is flooded with the tragedy that occurred on Lag BaOmer in Meron, Israel. During a climatic and momentous celebration marking the time that Rabbi Akiva sought out Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai and a few other students to rebuild the Torah legacy after his 24,000 students perished, the …
Dear Dr. Chani, There is a guy who lives in my neighborhood who I would love to date. There is one problem – he does not seem interested in me. Or maybe he is. Let’s call him Zack. Zack and I have been friends for a few years. I often host him for Shabbos meals, …
We Are Good Friends So Why Does He Not Want to Date Me? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, When I get together with one of my married friends and her husband, it is very uncomfortable for me. It is obvious to me that they have marital issues. Her husband will make jokes about her and criticize her opinions in public. I never thought of my friend as an insecure person, …
Should I Recommend Couples Therapy to My Friend with Marital Issues? Read More »
Recently, in the spirit of Purim, I invited people to share their most embarrassing dating stories with me. We could all use a good laugh so here goes… One time I was going on a blind date. I had arranged to meet the guy at a comfortable lobby in Manhattan and walk around the city. …
Dear Dr. Chani, My husband and I are at a standstill about where to live. When we got married four years ago, we agreed to live in New York so that he could finish graduate school. Now that he is going to graduate at the end of this year, we are under pressure to make …
How Can My Husband and I Agree on Where to Live? Dealing with Marital Conflict Read More »