Dear Dr. Chani, I would love to get along better with my husband. We have been married for over a decade but it seems like forever. An outsider would probably say that we have a great marriage, yet the truth is that I find it very difficult to feel close to my husband. He is …
My Husband is a Perfectionist. How Can I Feel Closer to Him? Read More »
Dear Chani, I have been struggling with a bad feeling for around two years. It started when new neighbors moved in a few doors away from us. At first, I felt very lucky to have such wonderful people living on our block. But as our children became good friends, and we had more to do …
My Friend’s Husband Is So Much Better Than Mine! Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, When I get together with one of my married friends and her husband, it is very uncomfortable for me. It is obvious to me that they have marital issues. Her husband will make jokes about her and criticize her opinions in public. I never thought of my friend as an insecure person, …
Should I Recommend Couples Therapy to My Friend with Marital Issues? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, My husband and I are at a standstill about where to live. When we got married four years ago, we agreed to live in New York so that he could finish graduate school. Now that he is going to graduate at the end of this year, we are under pressure to make …
How Can My Husband and I Agree on Where to Live? Dealing with Marital Conflict Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I desperately need your advice about how to handle my situation with the girl that I am dating. I have been dating her for three months, and I am worried about our relationship. Usually, we have a great time together and we get along really well. The problems start whenever we need …
Dear Dr. Chani, I would like your advice on a long-standing concern about friendship and marriage that I am currently facing head on. When I was in yeshiva, as a twenty-three year old, I began watching my closest friends get married, one by one. At first, I was genuinely happy for them and looked forward …
Dear Dr. Chani, It has been six months since I got married and I am perpetually exhausted. Marriage is wonderful and exciting in some ways, but it is not always easy. I was surprised to find out after I got married that my husband and I have a lot of differences of opinion. We are …
I am laughing as I write this since it sounds so trivial. Yet, I am really upset by it. I feel I am being excluded by my friends and family on WhatsApp.
My father was hospitalized in isolation with coronavirus and was very, very seriously ill. I do not feel that my wife was there with me enough during those very trying weeks. I feel this created a gap between us that it is hard to fill. Can you help me?
I would love to hear your advice for how to get the personal space I need, even during these trying times. Should I feel bad about this? Am I being selfish?