Dear Dr. Chani, It pains me to write about a relationship issue I have with my wife. Although we have what I would consider a pretty good marriage, I feel that in many ways she is critical of me. It really demotivates me to help out at home and hang out with my family. I …
Dear Dr. Chani, I read your recent column about worrying with great interest. One sentence really resonated with me. You wrote, “there are many possible alternative worries that may be masked by your main focus.” I have been wondering if that applies to my life. For as long as I can remember, I have had …
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Dear Dr. Chani, I desperately need your advice about how to handle my situation with the girl that I am dating. I have been dating her for three months, and I am worried about our relationship. Usually, we have a great time together and we get along really well. The problems start whenever we need …
Dear Dr. Chani, I would like your advice on a long-standing concern about friendship and marriage that I am currently facing head on. When I was in yeshiva, as a twenty-three year old, I began watching my closest friends get married, one by one. At first, I was genuinely happy for them and looked forward …
Dear Dr. Chani, It has been six months since I got married and I am perpetually exhausted. Marriage is wonderful and exciting in some ways, but it is not always easy. I was surprised to find out after I got married that my husband and I have a lot of differences of opinion. We are …
My father was hospitalized in isolation with coronavirus and was very, very seriously ill. I do not feel that my wife was there with me enough during those very trying weeks. I feel this created a gap between us that it is hard to fill. Can you help me?
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Sometimes I feel that my wife and I are in different worlds. When my wife tells me why she is upset, I try very hard to listen to her and understand her point of view. As I listen, I also make mental notes of how she is making mistakes and remembering the story incorrectly.
Dear Dr. Chani, I am writing to you because I am impressed with the advice you have given in your column. It is very balanced and thought-out. I am interested in your take on my challenge with my in-laws. Over the last four years, I have become increasingly resentful towards my wife’s parents. They are …
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