Dear Dr. Chani, My wife and I have an excellent relationship filled with love, admiration, and mutual respect. We have been married for over five years and are blessed with two amazing children. Generally, we are very good communicators and do not shy away from things that are bothering us. The issue I present to …
Dear Dr. Chani, My resentment towards my husband has been snowballing for a long time. In many ways, I see him as an overgrown child. I feel so lonely in my marriage. I am not sure what to do at this point. My husband often wakes up very late in the morning. He eventually goes …
Dear Dr. Chani, I have been leading a double life for the past five years. To the outside world, I am happily married, with an adorable little girl. Yet, in my own home, I feel that my husband and I are almost strangers. I am at the point where I feel pushed to decide if …
Can My Marriage Survive After My Husband’s Deception? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I am hoping that you can help me deal with some issues I am having in my second marriage. Before I explain what I am concerned about, I think it will help if I share the background of my first marriage. I suffered the tragic loss of my first husband when I …
How Can I Make My Children Happy in My Second Marriage? Part 2 Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I am hoping that you can help me deal with some issues I am having in my second marriage. Before I explain what I am concerned about, I think it will help if I share the background of my first marriage. I suffered the tragic loss of my first husband when I …
How Can I Make My Children Happy in My Second Marriage? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I would love to get along better with my husband. We have been married for over a decade but it seems like forever. An outsider would probably say that we have a great marriage, yet the truth is that I find it very difficult to feel close to my husband. He is …
My Husband is a Perfectionist. How Can I Feel Closer to Him? Read More »
Dear Chani, I have been struggling with a bad feeling for around two years. It started when new neighbors moved in a few doors away from us. At first, I felt very lucky to have such wonderful people living on our block. But as our children became good friends, and we had more to do …
My Friend’s Husband Is So Much Better Than Mine! Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, When I get together with one of my married friends and her husband, it is very uncomfortable for me. It is obvious to me that they have marital issues. Her husband will make jokes about her and criticize her opinions in public. I never thought of my friend as an insecure person, …
Should I Recommend Couples Therapy to My Friend with Marital Issues? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, My husband and I are at a standstill about where to live. When we got married four years ago, we agreed to live in New York so that he could finish graduate school. Now that he is going to graduate at the end of this year, we are under pressure to make …
How Can My Husband and I Agree on Where to Live? Dealing with Marital Conflict Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, It pains me to write about a relationship issue I have with my wife. Although we have what I would consider a pretty good marriage, I feel that in many ways she is critical of me. It really demotivates me to help out at home and hang out with my family. I …