As I sit down to write, my mind is flooded with the tragedy that occurred on Lag BaOmer in Meron, Israel. During a climatic and momentous celebration marking the time that Rabbi Akiva sought out Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai and a few other students to rebuild the Torah legacy after his 24,000 students perished, the …
Dear Dr. Chani, There is a guy who lives in my neighborhood who I would love to date. There is one problem – he does not seem interested in me. Or maybe he is. Let’s call him Zack. Zack and I have been friends for a few years. I often host him for Shabbos meals, …
We Are Good Friends So Why Does He Not Want to Date Me? Read More »
Recently, in the spirit of Purim, I invited people to share their most embarrassing dating stories with me. We could all use a good laugh so here goes… One time I was going on a blind date. I had arranged to meet the guy at a comfortable lobby in Manhattan and walk around the city. …
Dear Dr. Chani, I am wondering what I can do about my depressing dating life. Beyond my wildest dreams, I would never have imagined that I would be dating for over ten years. I admit that during my first few years of dating, I was quick to judge people. I regret that I said no …
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Dear Dr. Chani, It pains me to write about a relationship issue I have with my wife. Although we have what I would consider a pretty good marriage, I feel that in many ways she is critical of me. It really demotivates me to help out at home and hang out with my family. I …
Dear Dr. Chani, I am reaching out to you to get your advice about a guy I am dating – let’s call him Avi. We have gone out for a few months and I am still undecided about moving forward. He has a lot of the qualities I am looking for. He is kind, thoughtful, …
When Your Date is Socially Awkward with Your Family Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, I read your recent column about worrying with great interest. One sentence really resonated with me. You wrote, “there are many possible alternative worries that may be masked by your main focus.” I have been wondering if that applies to my life. For as long as I can remember, I have had …
Are Your Worries Masking Another Underlying Anxiety? Read More »
Dear Dr. Chani, Over the past four years that I have dated, I have not gone out with many guys. I tend to be selective about who I chose to date. Recently, I decided to go out with someone who sounded like a great person. The drawback for me is that he is on the …
Dear Dr. Chani, I have recently attended several small weddings in backyards, country clubs, and parking lots. I have also watched a few weddings on Zoom. What I would have once been totally shocked to see has become fairly common. When my friends first started getting married in a casual, downsized way, I pitied them. …
Dear Dr. Chani, I desperately need your advice about how to handle my situation with the girl that I am dating. I have been dating her for three months, and I am worried about our relationship. Usually, we have a great time together and we get along really well. The problems start whenever we need …